Shhh! Secret for Valentine’s Day – pass it on!
Will you try dining on oysters and champagne? Feeding each other asparagus? Feasting on strawberries Or nibbling dark chocolate truffles?
On February 14th love is in the air and couples both new and old traditionally share cards, food and make other declarations in the hope that they will be reciprocated.
But wait, I have a SECRET to share with all you erstwhile lovers about the best aphrodisiac for Valentine’s Day.
You cannot buy it at the shops or order it from the internet, you cannot make it or sign it or post it, you cannot see it or eat it or taste it, you cannot wrap it or wear it or hide it.
And it is free, totally FREE and available to you every day of the year!
The most powerful aphrodisiac for your relationship whatever stage it’s at is the simple, elegant, beautiful act of LISTENING
As I explore in my book “How to Beat Bedlam in the Boardroom and Boredom in the Bedroom”, the act of listening is one of the most valuable gifts that we can give to another person. To be truly listened to is to receive a precious gift from someone who is saying in effect “I am putting you first”
The person who is listened to in the context of a secure personal relationship, is the person who is able to say “I am understood”, “I am accepted”, “I belong here”, or even “I am loved”.
To quote from the writings of Brenda Ueland:
“When we are listened to, it creates us, makes us unfold and expand. Ideas actually begin to grow within us and come to life. You know how if a person laughs at your jokes you become funnier and funnier, and if he does not, every tiny little joke in you weakens up and dies. Well, that is the principle of it. It makes people happy and free when they are listened to. And if you are a listener, it is the secret of having a good time in society (because everybody around you becomes lively and interesting), of comforting people, of doing them good,” (From a collection of her essays, “Strength To Your Sword Arm: Selected Writings by Brenda Ueland.” Copyright 1992 by The Estate of Brenda Ueland.)
We cannot find personal intimacy without true listening. It is vital to fulfill the urge that we all feel to communicate at the deepest level and many people find that the intimacy of communication is at least as therapeutic as the intimacy of sex.
So why not spice up your relationship with the best aphrodisiac available LISTENING – and see what happens!
